Selflove: My transformation.
As I write this blog I can’t help tears running down my cheeks. You will find out the reason why my tears at the end of this blog.
It took me more than 25 years to discover how I lived in a wrong identity. I was nothing closer to loving and accepting myself the way God created me to be, or better said, I probably thought I loved myself.
The most amazing thing is that, the person I am today is a completely different person than who I used to be. I feel goose bumps when I think about it, and don’t feel like that person was me. “can you feel me?”
My transformation began in year 2010, and when I say “transformation”, I am not talking about my figure or my outside looks. I mean learning how to love myself and knowing my identity, my purpose, as well as changing my mindset to a positive one.
Is your self-love100%? Can you explain how you feel and think about yourself?
I was the type of person who gave everything to others and I always came second. I said a lot of YES’s to almost everything, although my heart meant a NO. I thought a No will bring a lot of excuses and explanations, so I ended up doing things that I for sure didn’t want to do them. After all what would people say about me? Today, I call it being stupid. Do you agree with me?
Do you love others for the things they do for you or is it a true love, no matter what? My manual-my bible says, love your neighbour as much as you love yourself. This blew out my mind after I got a deeper understanding of what it means. You neighbour is for this case not only the person living next door, but everyone else who is not you.
It is till I learnt how to love myself that love made a meaning. You will never be able to express love to its fullest as long as you don’t love yourself. Simple mathematics! Loving yourself is not an ego. It is accepting yourself the way you are and earning yourself a higher self-confidence.
I have learnt to truly love myself, put myself first and meet my own decisions. This has enabled me to live happier than I was before. I have worked on the way I think about myself and the things happening around me. I see every situation like a learning opportunity and try to pick the best out of it.
I have gone through a very big transformation not only physically but mentally and spiritually. Everything in me and around me has changed. Learning to love yourself is a process, so start learning it and continue, even if someone else makes you feel like you are not worthy.
Stop comparing yourself with others. There will always be somebody else prettier and better than you anyway. “ouch, sorry!” Comparing yourself with others is wasting your time.
Some of the people who know me do not understand about my transformation, and am okay with that. I have learnt to say No, not to be a people pleaser anymore and I don’t give people the power to decide what is good for me. And I can’t be everybody’s darling.
I grew up in a community where talking about love is and was a taboo. I would have loved to hear my parents say “We Love you daughter”, or just give me a peck as we parted. But these words went missing. I know they loved and do love me so much and it is obvious that parents do love their kids and they don’t have to put it into words.
Who else grew up in a such community? Nevertheless I wouldn’t trade my parents for anything else in this world.
We expect people to say they love us back, just to get a satisfaction or a confirmation. Some of you are in toxic relationships because you are looking for love where you can’t find it. It will always start with yourself. Selflove allows you to identify who you are and get a better self-confidence and reach your highest potential of what you can.
Take good care of yourself. Love and accept yourself the way you are. Every day is a chance to do your best, to better yourself and become the best version of yourself.
Now, back to the reason of my tears. You wake up every morning and you don’t love yourself. You live in the world of assuming that everything is okay. You ignore everything about yourself and what you would actually be wanting to be. You give others the power to decide over you. You are looking for love in material things. You have a low self-esteem because you don’t love yourself. That was me some years back. Is this you now?
This is sad, hurting and it makes me break down into tears.
I know it is hard to get to a fully selflove state, but this will completely change your life and the way you relate with others, once you get there. Don’t expect others to treat you the opposite of how you treat yourself.
Learn to F.L.Y (First Love Yourself)
My Prayer for you: May the Almighty God see your heart and your thoughts. God, you know and you can see if this person reading this blog has a selflove or not. Myself I can’t tell it. May you God set them free from themselves, show them how to love themselves more and more, day by day. In Jesus Name Amen:
I love myself and this allows me to love you most.
Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing this blog.
With much love