well, I don’t know about you, but all that I know is that life is not full of roses pedals.  We are at times faced with tough difficult situations. I mean that time of your life when the roses are dry and the only thing you can see is the cruel reality of its thorns. In short, you feel like all doors are closed.

I am talking about that time when you look around and see how everybody else apart from you has been blessed. When you are hustling from an interview to an interview and nobody is offering you a job opportunity. When you have too much hope of a relationship, only to find out that they have been taken. When the seeds you were counting on did not materialize the way you had hoped for. ALL DOORS CLOSED!

When you are in a deep pain and the suffering is unbearable. Yes, I know how discouraging it can be, because I have faced countless of closed doors in my life. I have been hopeless and there was only darkness at the end of the tunnel. There is a deep feeling of discomfort all through the suffering and we can not deny it.

I am sure some of you reading this blog are either going through the closed doors syndrome, or you were once a victim to it just like I was.  You have probably read my story in my blog article here ( When I first came to Europe, I thought that my doors were opened. Little did I know that I was starting a journey down a hall full of closed doors.

Deep inside me I knew how talented I was, but nobody offered me the opportunity. I sent hundreds of applications only to receive letters of rejection some days later. I vividly remember the panic I got when I saw that big envelope in my post-box, cos I knew it was again a letter of rejection.

People told me that I could never make it and life was hard in Germany. Honestly, I was hurt both spiritually and emotionally. I was confused and doubted myself if I had really done the right thing boarding that plane to Europe.

However, all through my suffering, I have learned that there is so much power in not giving up and that God works in a mighty way.  I have also learned that every closed door invited a response from me, and every response welcomed an outcome. You see, depending on how you respond to your suffering, you can either make your life miserable or you can refine yourself further to be stronger. I think the amount of energy required in either of them might be equal. So, how do you respond?

I am grateful to my closed doors. They have taught me to accept that they are closed, and I don’t have the key to open them. Yes, I am gad that I don’t have the key because behind some of these doors there could be a monster waiting to swallow me up.

Listen, closed doors don’t care about what you really want. So, stop wasting your time crying. They want to force you to step out of your comfort zones. Maybe they want you to spend a one-on-one time with God in prayer, to read your bible and seek Him more.

Today, God is using me to change the futures of other people like myself. I didn’t want to join the statistics of a wasted life in the diaspora. If you are right now going through the closed-doors-syndrome, I want to let you know that you are not alone. I want you to know that the power of God is working on your behalf, even if you can’t feel and see it.  Hold on and trust Him.

Always with love,
yours Grace.

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