unfortunately, we human beings have a got a DNA in us of blaming others and having too many excuses on the circumstances that happen in our lives. Adam blamed Eve and Eve blamed satan, after they had both disobeyed God. At last “it wasn’t me”
Being in a leadership position, I have realized how difficult it is to lead irresponsible people. To be sincere with you, I needed an extra portion of the grace of God on this one. When I separate the word responsibility, I come up with two powerful words, response and ability. In short, responsibility is the ability to respond wisely, and being held accountable for your outcome of actions.
Most of the things that happens to us are due to our past decisions and actions. Mark you, I don’t mean all but most. Not taking responsibility is a comfortability with a great harm to oneself. Sorry, but the hard truth is that your career, relationships, purpose, health, dreams etc may end up being totally damaged out of irresponsibility.
I was privileged to be born in a christian family and attended christian schools and college, and I never missed the church on Sundays. (“What a good christian I was, I thought.”) Despite this privilege I hardly understood the bible and what really meant to be a Christ-like christian. For me it was some kind of a routine and just a label to be a christian. I was empty, and my heart was unclean with unforgiveness, hatred, selfishness, egoisms just to name a few. You see, a label on an empty bottle is meaningless. I was messed-up big time my dear friend. This is to show you how irresponsible I was for my own relationship with God and my spiritual growth. Till that one day that I decided to take full responsible of my life, my mess started turning into a message, inform of this blog. This blog has transformed many lives.
You were not given the chance to choose where you want to be born, the names you want to be called, the kind of believes you grew up in and the like, BUT you have the responsibility to change where you are heading to. It is your choice to either blame your past, parents, situations or you wise up and get the power that God gave you back by being responsible.
Learn how to take responsibility of your own life. You will then learn how to be authentic, discover how talented you are, and your self-confidence rises. It is worth trying it. Start living and enjoying life by taking responsibility of your actions. Through taking responsibility of my actions, I have learned that sometimes I am my own problem and that I can not change people, but I can change the way I treat them and my responses towards them.
I love you,
I trust you started your new year well and strongest? Did you?
Everybody in the world has a different past, but this time around you and I happen to share a mutual past. That is year 2017.
Whatever you experienced in the year 2017, I believe there is much you learnt out of it. There is much than just a naked memory when you think of “what once was”. The attempt of this blog is not to make you dwell in the past, but to share with you my take away from 2017, which makes a better 2018.
Here we go, ready?
1. Knowing God better and personally: You see, there is a different between saying you know God and you knowing God personally. For many years I was so convinced that I knew God, by making sure I attended the church on every Sunday and secured myself the very first seat after the altar. By giving others the responsibility to read and explain the bible for me. By being holy on Sundays but living a different life from Monday to Saturday. By waiting till the storm come and then spend hours praying and asking God “why me?” And the list goes on and on. I was just lost in an illusion. Year 2017 made me know God better and personally. I was admitted in God’s Intensive Care Unit (GICU), where I encountered the real Love of God. Guys, this is when I started embracing life. I have learnt more about God and this has in reward helped me learn more about myself. I now know whom I am, my identity is not determined by the things I mentioned above. I am what God says I am!
2. Bringing impact in people’s life: You never know who is looking up unto you, and trust me somebody is really watching your footsteps. It is my duty to be a stewardess of a positive influence. My life has been an interesting adventure since I started pushing people smoothly beyond their capabilities. This makes me bring naked truth on the table, be genuine to myself and to be the change I want to see in others. In short, it has made me develop in my persona. So, the duty of influencing others positively continues radically in year 2018. Who is in for it?
3. My purpose vs Success: I missed the best highlight of my life by thinking that success was all about the toys I owned. Unfortunately, even after owning some toys, I could still feel empty, void and lonely. All through the year 2017, I have realised that a long-term success begins with your purpose. Knowing my purpose has given me that inner satisfaction. For example, writing this blog is apart of my purpose which gives me so much joy, because I know you will get value out of it. Never again will I ever trade my purpose for approval.
4. Self-reflection: Thanks be to 2017, that I started doing some self-reflection on what I do. Taking time to reflect and review on my personal world. This has increased my healthy self-confidence, as well as knowing that I can’t change everyone. But I can change my reactions towards people and situations.
As I take a review of 2017, I am so grateful for the transformation that I have undergone through. I have a reason to celebrate myself. Above all, I am grateful to God, my family, my husband, my partners, my students and to my expanding network of beautiful souls. You all made my 2017 a fabulous year. Thank you.
If God can bless me to be a blessing to you, He can bless you too, to be a blessing to someone else.
Trust me, it takes only one person to change somebody’s life, is that person you?
I love you,