Our Fourteenth Anniversary.
Hallo readers,
Today marks the 14th year of my marriage. I don’t believe in a flying time, but this time around I do!
My first and foremost gratitude and credit goes to God for turning our marriage into a beautiful mess. We’ve together, during these fourteen years experienced – laughter, sadness, disappointments, success, frustrations, happiness and the list goes on and on. In short, our marriage is not perfect and it is far from being perfect.
However, I can confidently tell you that I am married to my best friend, my prayer-partner, my business-partner and to the man of my dreams. I could go on and on but instead, I want to share with you some of the principles that have helped us stay together. This could help change your own marriage.
1. Marriage is hard: Yes, it is. Every good thing in life is worth fighting for. I prefer saying marriage is challenging rather than hard. For the last fourteen years we have learned a lot from each other and about each other. “School-time was never a paradise either, so is marriage too”. We have known each other better and we have seen our imperfections. Both of you are responsible for working hard to see that your marriage works.
2. For some years back, we had put God in the stores and we picked HIM up when the TSUNAMIS came up in our marriage. This is one of the worst things you can ever do to your marriage. Your enemy takes advantages of this. Those were years of a stagnant marriage, full of stress and hurting each other. When we allowed God to lead in our marriage, we started experiencing breakthroughs and blessings after blessings. My advice to any wife reading this: prayer is a tool that every wife should owe and apply it on daily basis! It has helped me strengthen my hero and my marriage as well.
3. Would you agree with me, if I said that a poor communication is one of the top-iest reason that is breaking down marriages? Just one word used wrongly and you can cause a deep emotional pain.
At times it felt like I had married the wrong person. We had to learn how to communicate with each other. Otherwise some breakdown prognoses were in progress. Words have got the power to either build or destroy. Work on an excellent communication in your marriage. Today I have learnt to listen, and to think twice before I respond.
4. Togetherness does miracles. You both become one after you marry. When we understood this one here, each one of us exhaled “their” life and inhaled “our” life. Everything became “ours”. Spend time together and change your ways of thinking. Think like a married person, you are no longer single!
5. Supporting each other: We are not in a competition with each other. We support each other to be the best version of ourselves. We exchange words of encouragement as well as criticising each other privately. Criticising your partner in public makes them feel inferior. DO IT WHEN YOU ARE JUST THE TWO OF YOU!
These are my top five of the many principles that have helped us stay together.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t fight. We do disagree and argue on some issues, but we don’t let the sun to set down before we have discussed and solved the matter. I do hope that you can get value out of this blog and get your marriage transformed.
Don’t let money or material things be the reason as to why you married. All these things will vanish and fade away. But real love and friendship will last forever.
Happy 14th anniversary to us, you are all invited to our 100th anniversary.
More queries from my blog about marriage are:
http://grace-albrecht.com/allgemein/how-i-dealt-with-my-intermarriage-issues
http://grace-albrecht.com/allgemein/sex-is-an-important-spice-for-your-marriage
I love you,
yours Grace
