Hallo readers,
You have probably have had that day where everything seems to go wrong. That bad day that you wished if you could rewind the clock for it to start again.
Today I want to share with you how a bad day can look like. All these happened on a single day.
Incidence 1.
So, instead of hitting the snooze button, I hit the stop button of my alarm, (One reason why I resist snoozing today) and slept further. By the time I was waking up, I was already 30 Minutes past the time that I normally report to my office. I called my office and excused myself and promised to be at most 20 minutes late. I then hurried to get the least of everything done and decided to skip the shower as well. Oh my Gosh!
Incidence 2.
I made myself a Coffee to Go and left the house in a haste. Guess what? As, I wanted to open my car door, I couldn’t trace my keys. Damn crazy! Both my car and house keys were still inside the house. Most of the German doors are made in such a way that, you need a key to get inside again. Hubby had already left the house. There I was, on a freezing morning outside and I had to make a choice where and how to spend the rest of the day.
Should I call a cab to at least drive me to work? It would not be cheap, and furthermore I will still need somebody to drive me back home after work. But before I called the Cab, some ideas of calling hubby to ask him where he was, came up in my mind.
My husband is normally by this time of the day far inside Switzerland to his customers. But on this bad day, he happened to be somewhere around our home area. What a God-incidence! One problem saved. He managed to bring me his keys, opened the door and got my keys.
Incidence 3.
The day did not stop there! Out of trying and wanting to catch-up with time, I drove 80Km/H where only 50Km/H is allowed. Ouch, I saw the flash and looked at my Speedometer and realised that I drove faster than expected. It was unfortunately too late to slow down. Another unwanted bill awaiting me, and perhaps some points in the black-book of the German-Traffic-Law, for violence against the law.
God have mercy on me!
Incidence 4.
For many years, I have been driving through the Germany-Switzerland border without being stopped for control. But On this day, I had to go through it, so they stopped me. Seriously!! I pretended I had not heard it well, just to get a better confirmation that it was true. All this time, this bible verse kept ringing in my mind. “In everything rejoice and give thanks to the lord”. But moment, was God serious when saying this. How?? Another 20 minutes lost at the border.
Incidence 5.
I thought I was done with everything, but no, here comes the highlight of the day. There was this car standing by the roadside, and there was this one woman kneeling helpless just beside the driver’s door. What the heck is she doing? I thought and drove away. When I looked at my side mirror I noticed that she was crawling and trying to reach at something. I immediately reversed my car and stopped where she was. OMG this was a pregnant woman who was almost losing her baby. She wanted to call the ambulance but she couldn’t reach her phone. Every part of my body started trembling. I managed to call the ambulance and they came on time before the worst had happened.
Thanks be to God.
Incidence 6.
I finally arrived at my work but late enough. So, you can imagine what had happened to every appointment that I had on that day. Making calls to postpone appointments is one of the thing I hate doing. I remember this one call which gave me a big ‘Bang’ from the other end. Okay Grace, breath in, breath out. In everything rejoice and give thanks to God.
It is just a bad day!
Incidence 7.
When I came back home and was happy to be done with the day, I found out that I had left some lights on, and a water tap running in the house. OH NO..
I had all the reasons to sit down and start crying and pitying myself, but listen, we will always have such days, for the days are evil. The question is, how do you deal with such a day? How do you prepare for such a day? Will you let your enemy extend a bad day to two days, a week, a month or even a year?
What if God knew that this pregnant woman will need my help? And therefore, God made sure He delayed everything for me on purpose? What if God wanted to save me from some dangerous incidences?
In life, there are two types of experiences that we make and you have probably experienced both. An experience that hurts most, and an experience that is on purpose for us to grow and build us. Every obstacle that we encounter has got a hidden blessing in it. Our duty is to find out what the blessing is. The best life lessons are learnt out of the worst experiences.
Are you having a bad day now? Relax for you are not alone.
Everybody experiences such a bad day. Stop stressing yourself for you can’t change what already has happened. Remember to rejoice in everything and stop complaining. A tough moment is there to make you tougher!
At the end, I was proud that I had conquered this day. I hanged out with my friends and had a great moment, laughing the loudest I could as I cherished the memories.
I love you,
yours Grace.
Hallo readers,
When I was growing up, I compared myself with my neighbours or with my classmates. This gave
me that feeling that I was not as good as they were. I was unhappy and felt so inferior.
I found myself focusing and struggling on being like them.
Just another bad way of living.
Did you do this too or did your parents compare you to somebody else?
My mum was an expert in this, especially when I had messed up and she had to make some *noise* to me, (My brothers and I called it BBC-Time) and her every second sentence went like this, “can’t you be like so and so??” But what my mum didn’t know was that the parents of the “so and so” she compared me to, compared their kids to me too.
Ha-ha-ha, jokes aside. Parents only want the best for their kids.
What about some of the teachers who insisted that we should all in a class of 40 students, understand
everything at the same pace, and become number one. CMON Education-System, it is the high time you started chasing talents and attitudes in your students.
This can be more useful to the world. Don’t you think so?
Well, the bible calls those who compare themselves to each other #foolish.
If you want to welcome a disaster in your life, start comparing yourself to others. You will never be contented with whom you are and what you have. The comparison-syndrome might make you do crazy weird things. God forbid!
Realize that we all have different purposes here on this earth. The fact that you don’t have what your neighbour already has, doesn’t mean you are a failure. You are original in a unique way. Stop killing yourself by falling into this comparison trap from your enemy.
Remember, THE PLANS THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU ARE PLANS TO PROSPER. YOU ARE THE BEST!
Focus on your purpose, recognize your identity and live them! SIMPLE!
Have a Comparisons-free day!
I love you,
yours Grace
Hallo readers,
Let me tell you something that you probably didn’t know. Another relationship killer is the power of arguments. Why am I saying this? Simply because I was once a CEO of arguments especially with my hero. Who else here like arguing, or find themselves into endless and pointless quarrels in their relationships?
This message is for you today.
When a disagreement between me and my husband came up, (I am not sure if I was not the one who initiated it) I pressed on arguing for hours. I noticed how mean I was, and my focus was on me winning that specific issue. What hurts me most was when he gave up and said, “You are right, I have my peace.” Damn!!! it was not about his peace but about me winning!! So, this gave birth to a new argument.
Call it foolishness and I will 100% agree with you.
Some degree of the arguments can turn to be very unhealthy for your relationship. They take you to that point of doubting your relationship, and wondering if you were both at all meant to be.
Here is the secret. As much as God want to bless his people, as much as your enemy is working on his goals -steal-kill-and destroy.
Don’t let your enemy make you his victim. Find out the reasons why you argue and work on finding out some productive solutions. Most likely, an argument is a just a symptom of the real problem.
Remember, nothing will change if you don’t change yourself first. Be the change first, you want to see in your partner. And if there is something am proud about myself is that, I don’t argue anymore even with other people with a different relationship like friends, family or with my business partners etc.
I INSTEAD DO CREATIVE DISCUSSIONS.
I love you,
yours Grace
Hallo readers,
What do you see when you stand before your mirror? I recently asked one person this question and instead of her answering me, she fell into tears.
Unfortunately, most of us have been lied and are living a life of approving themselves beautiful to the world only from the outside.
They have therefore, lost their identity basing their beauty on their outside looks, spending money unwisely by buying expensive clothes, shoes jewels etc, where else they truly know that they are dead and rotten from the inside. Using tonnes of make-ups on your face is not the right option either, for the inner beauty will never shine through the make-up.
If the inside self is worked on first, you will then don’t need to do a lot on your outward. Feel beautiful from the inside, love yourself and know that you are unique. Here is the blog link on #selfLove: http://x24.one/ysQG8 . Accept yourself the way you are, you are original, stop copying and pasting others. Work on you having a clean heart, sober minds and right attitudes.
The fashion and make-up industry does not tell the true you. Nevertheless, you have to feel comfortable in your clothes and make-up, and you can walk with confidence in them. There must be a good balance between the outside and the inside beauty. It’s my opinion!
When I accepted myself the way I am, everything else around me changed. Beauty is when a blind person tells you, “thank you that you were here, you are so beautiful”. And you go like what??? Or heeee?? Yes, because your inner beauty has touched their heart. What is in your heart? How do you make others feel?
Remember you have A DESINGER WHO loves you so much and unconditionally. He created you in His own image, simply fearfully and wonderfully beautiful! Build an intimate relationship with HIM and date HIM for a conversation on daily basis.
Anything less than beautiful that the mirror throws back to you, is nothing but a LIE.
Don’t believe it.
Have a beautiful day,
I love you,
yours Grace
Hallo Readers,
If you could get in contact with God directly, what question would you ask Him regarding sex?
Well, before I continue here are some cautions for you:
If you are…
-under eighteen: Please don’t read.
-in courtship: Read and take notes
-married: This blog is for you, read and get into action.
-singles: Read at your own risk.
After you have learnt how to professionally live with a stranger as a wife and a
husband, I felt a great desire to blog about sex.
I wholeheartedly believe that sex was designed by God for married people, and this is where
two people become one. To some of us, talking and thinking about sex is taboo, yet I know how frustrated, disappointed and unsatisfied they are in their sexual life.
How healthy would you consider your marriage as far as sexual intimacy is concerned?
Be sincere with yourself when answering this question.
Listen, sex is not only all about making children. It is a gift from God for husband and wife
to enjoy. So, stop trying to prove God wrong by ignoring your sexual desires.
I am not a sex-expert but I believe sharing this with you might spare your marriage, and change
your sexual intimacy. I took a while to realize how sex is an important spice for my marriage,
and that sex is a two-way traffic.
We women, have the tendency of making things like kids and housework more important than sex, thinking that sex is only for him. Come on, tell me that you do not enjoy it. Your participation is here very much needed. It is giving and taking!
Do not just wait and expect your husband to be the one who always does the initiation. Seduce him and crave for it!
Send your kids to their grandparents or aunties over the weekends or holidays and enjoy some wild sex with your husband.
Pray for your marriage and your sex-life. We are told to surrender everything to God. God is the Creator and Founder of sex. Putting God first in everything you do, for this case sex, will make you have the most amazing intercourse you can ever think of. “Halleluyah”
Remain to be that lady he was dating before you married, at least a little bit, if not all. Remember how smart and well-dressed you went for the dates. Marriage is not there to make you look older than your age.
What happened to you after you married? You look 50 at the age of 30, you wear some funny stockings on your head for the night, you wait till he gets home late in the evening for you to go take a shower. You hardly wash your hair-extensions or your weave-on due to worry it will loosen up or get damaged, before the time expected for it to expire on your head. Your husband want to lie close beside you, holding you tight in his arms. Do not chase him away with your bad odours. “oouuch”
The saying that say`s “you eat with your eyes first” must be familiar to you. Practising a good impression etiquette will make him never lose his affection on you for somebody else.
Remember that the stupidity of a man is covered by a woman. Built up your marriage by supporting each other. Ask God for wisdom and use the bible principles about marriage.
Your bedroom is not your courtroom where you bring all the quarrels, disappointments and the frustrations you gathered all day long. It’s your room for intimacy and love. So, please talk less!
Make a habit of pampering each other and loving each other unconditionally. Study each other well, that’s why you are married for God’s sake. Do those things that makes her/him feel good. You were born creative, show your creativity in your bedroom. Monotonous is boring and can be deadly.
Husband, a wife is a fragile creation. Even though the bible say’s that our bodies no longer belong to ourselves but the body of the wife belongs to the husband, please come slowly. Stop jogging horizontally and up and down on her without care. Do it with tenderness and mind how she feels.
Speak and discuss with each other about your feelings. I know this might sound awkward, but an open communication allows your hearts to be bound tighter and together. Share about your intimate needs, your comforts and discomforts.
Have both of you ever tried saying a prayer before sex? If not, please try it. God is ready to listen and to meet your heart desires. “ask for more fire!!” 😉
Every marriage has it’s own challenges, but if your desire is to have a godly marriage, you and your spouse must be spiritually stable. Work on yourself getting better personally-spiritually and let God lead in your marriage!
Woman, be a prayer warrior for him!
I want to conclude by saying that sex is an important spice for your marriage and a vital supplement for both your mental and physical health!
You can’t live without sex and if you can, ask God to give you 100% Self-control!
Don’t leave without sharing your opinions or your experiences.
I love you,
yours Grace.
Here are some of the things I would tell my younger self at eighteen!
1. I would never again try to master my life alone without God. Yes, my life without God was made of hard work, tiresome days, fear, Sleepless long nights, toiling, and the worst of it all was that, the gain was so little.
2. I am not here to live a life of pleasing others. Do not play your life stupid to be loved by others. Work on your best to be REAL in your true Identity and the right people will love you back.
3. I wish someone had told me the importance of “My Self” at the age of 18. Waaah, it’s a cruel world with a lot of responsibilities, but you are the source of everything and an expert of your own life. Whatever you are from the inside, will 100% determine how the world will respond back to you!
4. I would emphasize on the importance of taking risks. Success will never find you at your comfort zones. Breakthrough is mostly as result of risk-taking. Taking risks has made me grow, learn many things and gain a strong self-confidence. Playing it safe will make you stuck and stagnant.
5. Other people may they be – a blood or non-blood relation – with me are very much important and everybody deserve to be respected. Despite the fact that you were born alone and will die alone, work on seeing you have a good relationship with ‘others’.
Fact is, we need each other, and you will always be somebody else to somebody else.
Finally, nothing would stop me for:
“I CAN DO ANYTHING THROUGH JESUS CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME!”
What would you tell your youngest self? Share it with us and let us learn something from each other.
Love you,
yours Grace
Hallo readers,
What are your weaknesses. This is the question that always rings in my mind when I remember my very last J.O.B-Interview, seven years ago. I was almost running under the table.
Have you also been asked this question somewhere and how honestly did you answer it? Someone rolling their eyes. *Mmmhh*
We all have weaknesses as long as we are human beings living on planet earth.
Nobody can do everything perfectly, and thanks be to God. Even the most successful persons you may think of, have got their weaknesses. The only enormous difference between you and them is that, they are doing their best to become the best version out of their weaknesses. Did you get it right?
My believe is that every weakness can be worked on and turned into a strength.
Today I want to share with you two of my weaknesses, and how I have worked on them to be my strength.
So let`s go:
1. Shyness. OMG what a horrible feeling to owe. Who else here is familiar with this? Shyness was softly killing my destiny. Although I knew how my head was full of ideas, I could hardly share them with others. I remember when I was to give my first speech in public. Lord have mercy, I spent the whole morning in the rest room due to stomach disorders with every uncomfortable symptom you can ever think of. I mean diarrhoea and Co. Shyness controlled the whole of me.
I understood that I could never develop in my personal growth, if I continued being shy. I started looking onto the things that made me feel shy and I eliminated them step by step out of my life. Just to mention a few, not loving myself the way I am, accepting that I am not perfect and comparing myself with others. I started believing in myself and programmed my negative mindset into a positive one. Through this, I have been able to build a strong self-confidence.
What makes you feel shy? Reflect onto your life and say NO to this disaster. Insecurity leads also to shyness, so practice rigorously on those things you are not good at, so that you can do your best and feel secure.
2. Fear. This disgusting agent of the enemy crippled inside me and paralysed every part of my body. I felt like I could explode any moment. Goose bumps running through my body now, by remembering how bad it was. Fear was holding me back for many years from my success. I always doubted every opportunity that came on my way, out of fear of humiliation, fear of losing it all, fear of failing ectara ectara… and at the end of it, I remained stagnant at one point.
I am very grateful to that one morning when I woke up and realized that, I was not given the spirit of fear, nor is God unfair to give it to you. Today I can say, I have learnt to walk fearless, make wise decisions with a lot of confidence and conquer the self-made doubts and excuses. My trust in God is my shield!
Don’t let fear hold you back from achieving your dreams and goals like it did to me. God has greater plans for you, be ready to step out of your comfort zones and take risks. Put your trust in the Lord, for HE cannot let you go through what you can’t handle.
What is my point here?
We are unfortunately in an imperfect world full of imperfect creations. Frustrating at times, isn’t it? But the fortunate thing is that, God is able and we can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us. The power is in what you chose to believe in.
You can unblock your own breakthrough limiting actions, if you accept your weaknesses, embrace them and know that in very weakness there is a hidden strength in it. Turn your weakness into your strength.
I am still not perfect and that is not my goal either, but I am no longer shy and fear is just a peanut to me. I can at least motivate and inspire you to the extent of having your life being transformed.
Halleluyah!
Share with me your weaknesses, let us together turn them into your greatest abilities!
Lastly, you might be admiring me secretly and from far thinking how God has blessed me. Okay, you are right! I don’t deny that fact and more blessings on the way. BUT who lied to you that God ignored you? Don’t be deceived my friend. God is blessing people online and offline.
Live a life of expectations, play your role and involve God in everything you do. God want to blow your mind with blessings!
I love you,
yours Grace.
Hallo readers,
One of my friends was complaining how I like saying “Thank you,” and this motivated me to come up with this blog.
I am so excited to let you know how gratitude transformed my life.
I was not born practising gratitude but I made a choice to take everything that happens in my life, may it be positive or negative, just not for granted.
Seriously Grace, is it possible to say thank you even when things in life are turning upside down? I know how hard and tough it can be, but appreciating your hardships will do miracles in your life. Just try it.
Gratitude has made me accept the fact that the storms will come- bigger and small ones, and they are there to make me stronger. In fact, they meet me prepared enough to say, thank you that you came Mr. and Mrs. Storm, meet Grace your student!
We human beings tend to always complain and blame others for our failures. The very first people whom God created blamed each other and the enemy for the sin they made in the garden Eden. And the Israelites spent 40 years wandering around in the wilderness because of complaining and blaming others. What if they showed God a little bit of gratitude, for having set them free from the slavery?
What does that teach us? Please think with me!
Now, look onto your life? I don’t think you want to spend 40 years like the Israelites in your wilderness. Do you? “God forbid”.
Complaining opens a door for the enemy to attack you more and to keep you stagnant at one point.
What you don’t see through the hardships is the development taking place in you. Hardships make us learn how to walk fearless and they draw us nearer to God. After all, all things work for our own good and for the glory of God. Say Amen!
Gratitude has enabled me to have a positive mindset, which helps me to afford a smile even when the outcome is the least I expected. I know that, what I might be considering to be a “bad day”, would be a great day for somebody else somewhere.
Everybody loves to be appreciated. Say a heartfelt “Thank you” to others and let them know how you feel from what they contributed.
Faith is seeing things that you are asking God for, like HE has already granted them to you. How? Starting thanking God for the things He has done for you, and for the things HE is yet to do for you!
If you want a successful life, you must learn how to be grateful. Make gratitude your attitude, adopt it, marry it, inherit it and LIVE IT! It will cost you nothing but will make you happier.
Today, I am grateful for my life and for you. Thank you so much for reading this blog, commenting, sharing, loving and liking it. Trust me I don’t take it for granted.
Thank you my friend for inspiring me to write this blog!
With a lot of appreciation and love
yours Grace
Hallo my readers,
Are you already living in your financial freedom/prosperity?
When I was growing up, I swore how I would work hard, get myself a good paying job, save a lot of money and secure myself a financial freedom. Waoh, it sounds great, doesn’t it? But to my surprise all these were empty declaration!
To me, freedom is not just basking under the sun on a free day, living from payslip to payslip, cursing why the alarm wakes you up in the morning to go to work, and having no time to spend with yourself as well as with your loved ones.
So what next Grace?
First and foremost, I realised that I must put GOD first in all that I do, and the only everlasting profit is the one made under the influence of GOD.
Secondly, it clicked in my mind that a 9hrs/5day job will never make me accomplish my dreams any time soon.
Thirdly, it is nice having diplomas and degrees. However, they neither alone led me to my fully financial freedom.
The basic foundation of a successful life is me and myself. I actually mean you and yourself.
Until a few years ago, my story is different and it feels great. My conclusion is, you have to advance in your skills in order to get higher, speed up the process and your income will no longer be your salary. Your Degree/Diplomas papers will not do you any magic! Step out of your comfort zones and do the magic yourself.
It sucks to be in a financial famine, right? And I am fed up of seeing you struggling.
I want to challenge you today. When is the last time you paid your tithes as the very first thing when you got your salary, or did someone some kindness without worrying about your other bills?
When is the last time you got a salary increase, or an end of year bonus for the contribution you made to that company’s success? When is the last time your boss tapped on your shoulder and said to you “well done and thank you for your determination.”
When and when??
Look, you are not alone. God is willing to change those disappointments to appointments.
Kiss your financial famine a big goodbye. Start it today.
Always with love,
yours Grace
Merken
Dear readers,
When I look back on my life I realized that in every stage I was, there was always something to struggle with. When I was a kid I struggled with learning how to become independent, from crawling to walking, not forgetting the many times I fell and injured myself so badly. Come to my school time where hardships and fighting through the days was normal.
I could hardly wait to be 18 years of age to escape those tough rules from my parents. (..lol..)
Little did I know that the world of responsibilities was hungry waiting for me. Life did not get easier. Can you relate with this kind of life? Do you think like I thought , that life is ment to be full of struggles?
If you are not dealing with difficult co-workers, you are struggling to get along with your boss. Your bank account might be overflowing but you might be then struggling with your health, or you are trying to fix your marriage/family together. (Just to mention a few of the struggles)
What are you struggling with my dear friends? What is in your heart that makes you wake up on a wet pillow every morning?
Let me assure you, these hardships will always come. BUT if God is made the first priority in life, every storm will be calmed. God is everything. HE will give you a peace through the struggles, bring a meaning in your life, direct you to your purpose, with a great success through the hardships.
Do not just toil and work hard in your life alone. Toiling has too little gain and you might end up losing it all.
Listen, regardless of how tough your struggles are, leave them to God and rest in his sufficience grace. Make God your priority and play your part. HE will play his part and there is always a sunshine after the storm!
I love you,
Grace Albrecht
Merken
Hallo Readers,
As I write this blog I can’t help tears running down my cheeks. You will find out the reason why my tears at the end of this blog.
It took me more than 25 years to discover how I lived in a wrong identity. I was nothing closer to loving and accepting myself the way God created me to be, or better said, I probably thought I loved myself.
The most amazing thing is that, the person I am today is a completely different person than who I used to be. I feel goose bumps when I think about it, and don’t feel like that person was me. “can you feel me?”
My transformation began in year 2010, and when I say “transformation”, I am not talking about my figure or my outside looks. I mean learning how to love myself and knowing my identity, my purpose, as well as changing my mindset to a positive one.
Is your self-love100%? Can you explain how you feel and think about yourself?
I was the type of person who gave everything to others and I always came second. I said a lot of YES’s to almost everything, although my heart meant a NO. I thought a No will bring a lot of excuses and explanations, so I ended up doing things that I for sure didn’t want to do them. After all what would people say about me? Today, I call it being stupid. Do you agree with me?
Do you love others for the things they do for you or is it a true love, no matter what? My manual-my bible says, love your neighbour as much as you love yourself. This blew out my mind after I got a deeper understanding of what it means. You neighbour is for this case not only the person living next door, but everyone else who is not you.
It is till I learnt how to love myself that love made a meaning. You will never be able to express love to its fullest as long as you don’t love yourself. Simple mathematics! Loving yourself is not an ego. It is accepting yourself the way you are and earning yourself a higher self-confidence.
I have learnt to truly love myself, put myself first and meet my own decisions. This has enabled me to live happier than I was before. I have worked on the way I think about myself and the things happening around me. I see every situation like a learning opportunity and try to pick the best out of it.
I have gone through a very big transformation not only physically but mentally and spiritually. Everything in me and around me has changed. Learning to love yourself is a process, so start learning it and continue, even if someone else makes you feel like you are not worthy.
Stop comparing yourself with others. There will always be somebody else prettier and better than you anyway. “ouch, sorry!” Comparing yourself with others is wasting your time.
Some of the people who know me do not understand about my transformation, and am okay with that. I have learnt to say No, not to be a people pleaser anymore and I don’t give people the power to decide what is good for me. And I can’t be everybody’s darling.
I grew up in a community where talking about love is and was a taboo. I would have loved to hear my parents say “We Love you daughter”, or just give me a peck as we parted. But these words went missing. I know they loved and do love me so much and it is obvious that parents do love their kids and they don’t have to put it into words.
Who else grew up in a such community? Nevertheless I wouldn’t trade my parents for anything else in this world.
We expect people to say they love us back, just to get a satisfaction or a confirmation. Some of you are in toxic relationships because you are looking for love where you can’t find it. It will always start with yourself. Selflove allows you to identify who you are and get a better self-confidence and reach your highest potential of what you can.
Take good care of yourself. Love and accept yourself the way you are. Every day is a chance to do your best, to better yourself and become the best version of yourself.
Now, back to the reason of my tears. You wake up every morning and you don’t love yourself. You live in the world of assuming that everything is okay. You ignore everything about yourself and what you would actually be wanting to be. You give others the power to decide over you. You are looking for love in material things. You have a low self-esteem because you don’t love yourself. That was me some years back. Is this you now?
This is sad, hurting and it makes me break down into tears.
I know it is hard to get to a fully selflove state, but this will completely change your life and the way you relate with others, once you get there. Don’t expect others to treat you the opposite of how you treat yourself.
Learn to F.L.Y (First Love Yourself)
My Prayer for you: May the Almighty God see your heart and your thoughts. God, you know and you can see if this person reading this blog has a selflove or not. Myself I can’t tell it. May you God set them free from themselves, show them how to love themselves more and more, day by day. In Jesus Name Amen:
I love myself and this allows me to love you most.
Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing this blog.
With much love
Grace Albrecht
Hallo my readers,
What do you think when you hear the words LEADERS or LEADERSHIP?
Do you perhaps think of some politicians somewhere, Managers, supervisors or some most important persons leading a great number of people under them?
Today, I want you to get rid of that myth. I believe you are leader in some ways. Leading is influencing people.
Now tell me, are you not influencing anyone in this world? Of course, yes, may it be your kids, neighbours, your community, workmates, business-partners or even strangers on your way etc. etc., the list is endless.
God has put you in the middle of many people to influence. Agree with me that I have won it, in this one question. Haven’t I?
However, the most challenging question will always be, what kind of influence are you making?
I have struggled with a company of bad influence for some years. I looked around my life and everything was in a stagnation. There was nothing moving forward. I realised that influence has got a lot of power and it can be of great advantage if applied properly.
Why am I sharing with you this?
My desire is always to share with you my personal experiences to encourage you, and to see you succeeding in your life and I can only lead you to the place I have ever been.
My life was in a still stand, struggling for long to get from one level to the other. Are you familiar with this kind of living?
I was totally fed-up! I knew I had to change my direction and needed to step out of the disqualified kind of living, to a successful lifestyle. This is simple and possible for everybody everywhere, believe me.
What did I do?
One thing was for sure, I had to get another bearing of my direction. I set boundaries around myself for my own protection. Learning to say NO and being honest to myself was a part of the process, that I had to go through. Not easy but possible.
I then needed a mentor, somebody with a better direction. I first chose YESHUA of the bible to be my spiritual mentor. He has promised to lead me through the valleys of death, so HE must be having the qualities of a good LEADER. Can I tell you a secret? HE is the best mentor ever!
Who are your mentors and what kind of influence are they making in your life. If they are not adding any value in your life, please drop them down. This does not mean that you don’t care about them. You absolutely care a lot and that’s why you don’t want to waste their time and life.
A positive influence has got countless benefits. It is vital for your success. Remember, to be successful in life, you will need other people. You need to take care whom you want to follow.
Stay focused, surround yourself with people who inspire you and motivate you. Your time is so precious, don’t waste it.
Love you so much,
Grace Albrecht
Hallo Readers,
Have you ever been hurt by someone or have you ever hurt someone? C’MON, if you have never experienced both, you must be living in Mars or Venus.
Planet earth is made up of imperfect people, myself included. We all make mistakes and it is right to make as many mistakes as we can, but don’t keep repeating the same mistakes again.
Today I have a great desire of sharing with you how forgiveness set me free from my own captive. Yes, I have struggled with letting go of grudges and bitterness for a long time.
I was a drama-queen if anyone annoyed me or hurt me. I thought I was doing those people who had wronged me a great favour forgiving them, and whom was I to lower my ego anyway? “Can you feel me?”
However, little did I know how this made me unhappy, unhealthy and peace-less.
The worst to forgive is when your best friend betrays you. When that one person you trust most, and with whom you share your innermost secrets abandons you. It caused me so much pain in my heart and there was no way to forgive them!
I know you have gone through pain, and your story is different from my story. Right? One thing that we both have in common is, YOU and I have been bitter, upset and disappointed.
We both know that we should forgive, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to do so. You need to make a very serious decision here. Remember, you are forgiving others not for their own favour but for your own freedom.
People are going to hurt and you will always face troubles. Nobody is perfect, so don’t expect people to be Jesus of Nazareth. He (Jesus) forgave all of them on the cross, even after going through all what he went through.
I have learnt how to professionally deal with people after annoying me, without letting emotions to control me. I depend on God to give me grace to forgive others.
When you have bitterness and grudges in your mind, it’s like a poison in you, called hatred. Don’t let it steal your joy, peace and stop living in the past.
Since I started forgiving others, my life began to move forward. I have a peaceful mind – FREEDOM!
Every trouble that I encounter with human beings, is there to make me grow and to remind me to forgive.
Forgiving is one of my lifestyle too. I thank God for giving me a cleanest heart.
I want to encourage you today. I want you to forgive yourself and those who have wronged you for the sake of your freedom, peace and happiness.
Focus on your destiny and not your past. Jesus came to give us life and forgave us our sins. Allow Jesus to do a Re-Do in your life!
AND, if you want to be successful in life, FORGIVE!
Thanks for reading and for leaving a comment behind, or a testimony on how forgiveness set you free.
Always with much love
Grace Albrecht
On the very first day I met him, I felt so many butterflies in my stomach. Honestly, I didn’t understand myself at that moment.
We fell in love in each other on that day. The race and the culture differences could not stop us. I, by then spoke a very poor German and he spoke no English.
The only way we could communicate was through gestures and mimics. Neither could that stop us too. I always had a pocket-dictionary in my handbag and had to check every second word I wanted to say, or check the meaning of what he told me.
It was challenging as well as exciting.
We ended up exchanging the “Yes I Do” words in year 2003. Another chapter opened in my life. OMG, Grace you are now a wife to a white boy – a German!!! I asked myself innocently.
Have you ever wondered how things happened to you and your life? That was me wondering. Just the other day I was a village girl in one of the remotest area in Kenya, and there I was committing myself into a marriage, in a totally different world than where I had grown up.
“Hallo!”
Our marriage had not involved a lot of courtship before, and so there was a lot to learn about each other and from each other.
I came to understand that just being in love with each other is not the end of it all. Marriage is a lifetime process that requires more than just “Love”.
We had a lot of differences, not only in our way of thinking but also in our way of communicating with each other. It came to a point where we couldn’t communicate any more, every second sentence was misunderstood by either one of us.
I had to learn how to communicate with my husband. I had to be careful with how, and which words to use to phrase my questions. Thanks, be to God for giving me wisdom in this one.
Communication is one very important aspect in marriages, although mostly ignored or assumed.
I believe that the issue is not even the colour differences, neither the culture differences. Whoever you will choose to marry, there will be better and worse times. There will always be some boundaries between the both of you.
Unconditional love simply means that no matter which boundaries, you are both ready to work on them. Sticking to each other and accepting that nobody is perfect.
I learnt to do away with a lot of those things that made my husband angry. The issue with punctuality for example, which was a culture-thing. If it is 2pm, let it be 2pm Grace, and not a day after. Just the look in his eyes told it all that I was late…oouch!
It has been a process of me trying to change my “Kikuyu” way of demonstrating affection. Oh my… Someone help me please. 😉
I thought that words were enough to do magic. Pecks, hugs and kisses were for me in only private dark corners, where nobody is watching. C’mon Grace!
I have learnt that, “actions will always speak louder than words”.
Considering thirteen years now, I can look behind and see how far we have come together.
A stranger turned to be the man I adore and admire. The Man who has helped me conquer the culture shock in German, the man who always believed in me. He asked for nothing and gives me everything, to see I am fine. I call him my husband.
It is not easy to get along with homesick and living so far from my family. Sometimes you have to give up on some things, in order to get the best. I am happy and I can count it as a blessing.
Fact is, Home will always be Home. I miss you my lovely daddy, brothers, my only sister, nieces and nephews, my extended family-members, friends, neighbours, as well as my community in Kenya.
However, my marriage has opened my mind and my horizon. I have learnt a lot of the German-culture. I am more open to people and I have a top level of self-confidence.
We have not only seen ourselves grow older physically, but deeper in our spiritual life too. We have surrendered our life to God. We both desire to be God’s vessels and to be a blessing to many and to YOU too.
“We have let our marriage look less than the world and more like Christ.”
Thanks for reading till the end. I trust you have gotten some value out of this blog. I will appreciate your comment, sharing, opinions likes and love.
Thank you.
With much love
yours Grace
I grew up in a christian family, and I attended christians schools and college the whole of my life. I went to the church every Sunday, just to be a part of the audiences. I was a church nomadic, trying to fit in any of the churches.
I preferred catholics for they appeared holier than the rest of the christians. I loved their style too.
Christian Religion Education (C.R.E) was not my best subject in school. I hated describing stories, that I didn’t understand their meaning anyway.
Despite the fact that I had a good christianity background, none of these things made me understand what it really meant to be a christian. But one thing was for sure, I feared God so much. I knew He does exist but I avoided any intimacy with him.
I was made to believe that He is a God of the “DO NOT’s”. I believed that God punishes people, and He got a lot of rules and regulations.
I am that person who liked breaking rules (if you don’t believe me, ask my schoolmates.), and that is one of the reasons why I did not want any close relationship with this God.
It took me exactly 30 years to finally understand, that it is not about me being perfect, and not about having the right behaviour.
I don’t believe in coincidences and luck anymore, for exactly on my birthday my life got transformed. I never knew I could get all this crazy about God, and I am so in love with Jesus.
I believe in Godincidences.
My life could never get any better lively than now. I was living a life full of myths. God is love and he created us in his own Image.
So we are all love. A crazy thing to believe in, but trust me this is real.
In October 2013, I got my salvation through a double healing. Yes, God set me free from severe knee-pain, (thanks be to God, I can still wear my high heels now) and from some chronic abdominal pain.
I had never believed in healing, neither was my intention closer to receiving a healing miracle, of which I was not aware I had deserved it long time ago. “Halleluya”
God works in wonderful ways. I had done nothing good before, and to be sincere I was full of sins. I was a prodigal daughter, whom God was longing to bring back home.
My God who can be your God too, arrested me and I fell on his mercy, exactly on the 13th of October – my birthday.
I needed to know more about this God who had just healed a wretch like me. I got so hungry for him, and I think he purposely increased the desire in me, and nothing could still my hunger for him. He can be jealous too. I listened to thousands of sermons in a week. Nothing could stop me any more.
I read the New Testament in less than one week’s time, which is a great achievement for me. I hated reading books, but the Gospel is the first book I read without being forced, and without skipping pages. I couldn’t get enough of it. I made a vow to myself that, I either believe everything in the bible or I leave it.
Many are complicating Christianity and defining it, the way it is not supposed to be. It is the simplest thing that I have ever heard of. I am not talking about religion. It’s about having a relationship with God and knowing the truth.
I don’t have to be perfect, and I can never be perfect anyway. God has changed me, removed that bad girl with bad attitudes out of me, and made me new. He has cleansed my heart in a way that nobody can hurt me any longer.
So don’t try me. 😉
Nevertheless, christianity is not just saying a prayer and disappearing to heaven, or getting your problems solved immediately. It is not about being good and getting praises.
Christianity is a process of learning how to obey, which honestly speaking I have never been good at. I am learning to listen and obey God each and every day of my life.
Sometimes I find myself urging with him, because I don’t want to do that what he exactly want me to do, at a specific moment. I remember how on one day I had just come home after work, and I was in a haste to prepare a dinner for my husband.
But God said I should go and pray. We had just moved in a new house and I was privileged to make one room my prayer room. God insisted I should go to that room and pray.
Oh God, please let me first cook and I will do that later, I kept arguing. He however, kept pressing it too much inside me and I decided to obey. I first went into my bedroom to pick up my bible and I was like, oh I can also say a prayer here in my bedroom, since going to my prayer room was nagging me.
God is God, he still insisted I should go to that prayer room. I finally obeyed him fully.
Guess what?
Immediately I opened that prayer room door, heat embraced me. Jesus!
I had ironed a shirt in that room a night before, and left the iron heating overnight and the whole day… Come and see me trembling…OMG!!!
This is God wanting to rescue me from a disaster, and there I was arguing with him.
Jesus have mercy on me!
The only prayer I could say was, “God, please forgive me for not obeying. I praised him the whole of that evening and I will continue praising him for the rest of my life.
God has rescued me from many other dangerous situations. I have a load of testimonies to tell.
This transformation could not have come at any other better timing in my life. I now understand christianity better. I have found my identity. I am yet to get a PHD in my faith, but thanks God for the masters. I walk fearless for the one who is inside me is stronger than the one in the world.
I don’t go preaching and I am not a pastor either. I just decided to follow God. My goal is to be christ-like-lady, and a doer of the word of God…God help me!
I want people to know they are lovable, and see themselves the way God sees them. I do love people unconditionally, just like God loves me.
Much love,
Grace Albrecht
Hello readers,
I have had the desire of sharing with you more of my life experience and journey to milk and honey in Germany, or what others would call in search of greener pastures.
It has not always been good times but when I reflect on my life, I am grateful for how it has shaped me today. You might be going under the same circumstances and I believe you can relate more to me.
I left my native country Kenya with a diploma in secretarial studies. Oh how I loved shorthand and the noise the typewriters made while typing. Reality however hit me, when I realized how challenging it was, to get the milk and honey. Starting from the language barrier, cultural differences to the weather shock.
I came here with high hopes, thinking I will secure myself a secretarial job in one of the German-offices, and become one of the best secretaries ever.
What do you do when life offers you exactly the opposite of what you had expected? Not giving up, of course! There were no white color jobs for me. The only jobs they offered were cleaning jobs and very many other minor jobs.
Nevertheless, I knew what my duty was. Life is not a shortcut. The only best option for me was to change my career, so as to escape becoming a victim of a disaster later on. It was time to go back to school again, starting from square one. That is how I ended up in a three year German Nursing college.
I am grateful for this change in my life, for it has had a positive outcome at the end.
Being a nurse has been rewarding but also with its share of challenges. I have had the chance to meet different personalities, to be confronted with death, see people recovering and getting happier.
I have dealt with not only helpless patients but also hopeless family members. I have witnessed the end of life for many people and have been the first one, who closed their eyes after death.
Still in the mourning phase just after my mom’s death in 2010, on the very first day I resumed work (I still recall vividly as if it were yesterday) one patient-a woman died in my arms.
OMG deja vu … I couldn’t help it anymore. Tears are words and expressions that should be brought to writing.
We hate to talk about death but it’s guaranteed that one day, you and I will die. People are dying now and then, and right this very minute. Sometimes I feel like I am running short of emotions.
But being a nurse has made me know how to cry or conduct myself professionally. Unfortunately, I lost the most important woman in my life-my mum, and I was not the one who closed her eyes last.
The ups and downs did not stop there. I believe being a nurse is a calling. Living in a foreign country, one will always have challenges like racism. Yes, I have dealt with that too.
What about this man who broke his Rehab-Term because of me? I felt so weak and miserable. This one patient claimed that I had injected him with poison and he was not ready to complete his three weeks’ period in that Rehab, as long as I worked there. Although the clinic stood behind me, I felt like quitting. I lost the confidence to attend any other patient.
The self-made doubts and the negative talking to myself were killing me, but I needed the job so desperately. I decided to stay, gathered my courage and conquered the fear of racism. I didn’t let it identify my future.
I gave the innermost me compassion and love. For sure with time the doubts were gone. As challenging as life was I still could not lick the honey.
My walk was made up of sleepless long nights, exhausted days, challenges and teardrops, which I don’t regret at all. I have had a lot of setbacks, but also pretty successful moments with promotions and a smart pay. I have received a lot of gifts too, and heartfelt Thank You’s.
When I talk of thanking God with all that I have, is right now. My past experiences and my cultivated surprises have left a great impact in my life.
I have learnt to be present in my own life.
Visit this site to read how I got closer to licking the milk and honey.
Best regards and much love……
Grace Albrecht
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